Saturday, October 25, 2014

motherhood in reality; comment (or questions) and answer

imaginary interviews with mothers these day 

comment:
how wonderful! how can u still do a creative work and create things while raising ur daughter?

answer:
i can not..

it's not always rainbows and unicorns..well, there ARE, sometimes..but it takes lot of time management exercise which involve a lot of tears, thousands whys and a bit drama.
so yeah, in reality, i can not do a creative work. i'm a pragmatist now. creative work u say? *laughing* it's mere a lipstick, really just on a surface, u should see far beneath it.

comment:
how can u involve ur daughter (such a little girl) in ur workplace?

answer:
i must.

it's not a matter of can or can not. i must bring her to my workplace, sometimes. it's not what i ALWAYS want, but something that i must do, in order to fulfill my deadlines. finish my workload so it doesn't split my focus while i'm nurturing my daughter. so i can think clearly what i'm gonna cook for her, doesn't yell at once when she made a normal-kid-mess, doesn't break down and cry straight away when she won't sleep and ask for another round of playtime. in short, to help me keep my sanity.

comment:
how lovely! ur daughter is so calm and sweet..u must have taking care of her veeery good..

answer:
... 
*no words, just smile. "wave and smile boys, waaave and smile," said the penguins.

well..u doesn't get to see me at home OFTEN, d'ya? raising and taking care of her very good..let's see..
it, sometimes, in hard days, involve looots of tears, excessive needs to be understood by ur partner VERY MUCH, envying all of ur fellow mother/friend on ur social media circle (because they can still socialized while u don't even have the chance to take a short bath), dreaming and missing the old days..in short, insanity. yes, sometimes my daughter raised by insane women.

insane.
sometimes.
really, just sometimes.

am i a bad mother?

no, i'm a normal 21st century mothers.

how's that sound?
normal enough for u?

5 comments:

  1. hehehhe :D gak apa-apa, mita. gak sendirian, banyak juga ibu2 kayak mita ini. nanti seiring berlalunya waktu *halah*, mita pasti bisa mandi lebih tenang, baca buku lebih banyak, tidur lebih banyak :D hihihi ya tentu aja laut tetep ngintilin sih hahaha :D

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  2. hahaha...i feel you!!
    -Reno-

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  3. Hang in there :)
    You are not alone.
    For nearly 5 months after giving birth I hardly ever left the house, and up to 20 months I slept when she slept,
    so going out of the house or socializing with friends after 19:00 WIB was impossible. I was lucky some friends frequently drops by every now and then, so I didn't really feel left out.
    But I found and made new friends, who are all mothers, firstimer or secondtimer, who were all awake past midnight to breastfeed and couldn't go back to sleep for another 30 minutes. We tweet each other, or chat, or comment on each other's facebook post/blogpost.

    More then 10 minutes on my own in the bathroom is still impossible until today, 3 years and 6 months later, because she will knock on the door or wants to go shower with me.
    and no, I cannot work properly with her in the same room as me. I can work, but NOT properly. There are a lot of tricks and tips for the working from home arrangement to work, but for me personally it's almost always overwhelming. So I have to live with that, lower rate of productivity. But I love my work, and I work everyday when I could, and it's okay.
    The child won't be a baby/toddler for ever anyway :)
    ESNANGKAAA!!! you are definitely not alone.

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    1. @Mba Reno: iya kaaaaannnn.. *ketawa sambil nangis

      @Mirna: "and no, I cannot work properly with her in the same room as me. I can work, but NOT properly." yeeesssss! hahahahahahaha *ketawa berusaha waras sambil dikejar deadline*
      iya Mir, betyul..ini lagi menikmati masa masa diambang waras kadang engga, hahahahaha..suatu saat pasti gw rindu saat saat gw menjadi supermen ini, ihik! :p

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